Sound Advice

I think the key to a good relationship is understanding that a spouse/life partner is just another relative. And just like any other relative, some days you are going to love the devil out of them, and some days you are going to swear they are the devil.

You can't go into a relationship with the expectation of endless passion and perfection. You have to go into a relationship with the expectation of living life around each other--it's like a dance.

For me, I tossed out everything I had on my "perfect man" list and reduced it to this: Someone I can be 100% of myself with, without feeling ashamed or worrying about looking stupid. When I found that (in my 30s), I married him. Believe me, being able to be myself without embarrassment is worth more than firework-kisses to me any day of the week.

Sometimes, it is lousy. Sometimes, it is glorious. Most of the time, it's just simply comfortable. Comfortable is nice. Very, very nice.

*Very good advice. Do I feel like I can be myself around Sean? No, not 100%.